Must remember

I always look forward to T coming for his violin lessons, partly because he's a great kid but also because his mother J is such a font of wisdom. Over the last 2 weeks she has come every week with bits of sage advice, stories from her life, reassurances and perspective that only comes with experience. This is what she had for me today:

• I am a fantastic person
• He is totally unsorted and he is much less than I deserve
• I deserve to be absolutely supported and to feel absolutely secure
• One day this will be just a blip
• I am a fantastic person
• This breakup is not about me, no matter what reasons he gives and no matter what he says, it is about him
  
• If it comes back one day, well and good, but I don't need it and now he needs to be gone
• All this contact is trash that I need to be rid of
  
• I am a fantastic person
• I need to get all this practical stuff sorted out and snap myself out of this because it is not worth all the sorrow
• Life isn't about the picture on the wall - it's about painting it (sounds cliched but didn't when she said it)
• The crucial thing, the key to it all, is learning to love myself
  

Is it really true that if you tell yourself something enough, you eventually believe it?